For each topic each week you are to post your original reply and then reply to four other postings for each topic. Total possible points available is 30 per week. Points will be determined based on content and correctness; this is your chance to develop professional writing skills so habits commonly found in the texting environment are not allowed and if used, will result in points being deducted. The total number of posts required per week to get full points is 15. Three topics, 5 posts per topic.
Questions and Answer for each topic.
Men and women communicate on a daily basis but it is not always effective. Remember the 1995 book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? The author argues men and women have different needs, goals, values, and communication styles.
Do you agree with this statement or not and why?
Electronic media is changing our lives and technology is to blame. We no longer talk face to face; we text and text and text. What has changed over the last decade that makes us feel like we need to have instant connections? When you send a text to someone and they do not reply, is that offensive?
Proofreading is a critical part of the written communication process yet it is often the most overlooked step. What tips do you have for someone that is new to the business environment when it comes to ensuring they produce quality documents.
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I both agree and disagree with the authors argument: Men and women have different needs,goals,values and communication styles. While there are obvious differences between the genders, such as testosterone balances- I feel that this statement looks over the big picture, we are all different as individuals, not necessarily as generalized groups (pink and blue). Before I get into my firm opinion on this topic, I would like to address that while this may not be true to the date, back in the day I believe that this would be more of an accurate statement. Men were born into families to earn the money and women were born and married into families to take care of the home and family- so back then, yes, I would agree that they had different goals, values and communication styles. However, these days there is far more equity in gender roles than the old timers could have ever imagined, now there are stay at home dads and traveling business moms, a new norm. There are plenty of men who share the same charisma as women, and vice versa. I would like to respectfully point out gender changes, as I feel it is appropriate for this topic: a great example of a man or woman whom shared the same goals,values,needs,etc. to the point of conversion. We are all different and with that being said, being comfortable in our own skin, which requires meeting our own needs, has nothing to do with our gender… in my opinion.
I am conflicted about this topic. I do believe that in general, men and women communicate differently and have different communication styles. I do not believe this is black and white though. I tend to think that men and women have way more commonalities in communication styles than they have differences. I find that many women are really into “gossip” and or just being very chatty in general, whereas men tend to be more reserved and quiet. Of course this doesn’t pertain to every man and woman. For example, most of the women in my family will talk to each other on the phone almost once a week for hours on end while the men in the family, barely talk for more than 10 minutes every 2 months or so. It is not that we don’t care or love each other as men in the family, but rather, there I believe it is because we just don’t care about taking the time to talk about menial topics.
In the last part of the statement above “…different, need, goals, values”, I don’t believe this to be true at all. I think of the united states as a very patriarchal society, but this has been slowly changing for many years now. For a long time, women were sort of groomed and categorized into what their needs, goals, and values should be. I think the typical ideas of what a women needs or wants from the patriarchal standpoint is eroding, slowly. I think it is eroding because the fallacy of it all has been unveiled and newer generations are able to communicate this better.
I both agree and disagree with the author’s statement. Men and women are genetically different, but when it comes to communication, needs, goals, and values, I think every one is individually different in those aspects. I do, however, notice that most men tend to communicate less when it comes to their feelings and women tend to communicate more about how they are feeling. For the most part, I do feel that people’s differences in values, communication, needs, and goals doesn’t come from what gender they are, even though it does play a part, but I think that it stems from the environment and culture they are raised in.
I agree with this statement. I think this statement is very true because what the author say is what make men and women different. I have a article about researching the differences between man and woman, which is very persuasive. Unfortunately, I forgot the source. In general, sometimes some men and women have similar characteristics, but overall, they are pretty different. For example, the goal of a man can be making enough money to feed his family while the goal of a woman is to take care of her family.
I think because we are familiar with texting so much that if you text and do not receive the message from the receiver immediately, you will feel offensive because you may think they don’t respect or ignore you. This is the different from the past and the present. In the past, you don’t text, you meet other face by face. Nowadays, it is very easy to connect and make friend with people all around the world, so you usually feel that you need to have instant connections with people.
For me, when you send a text to someone and they do not reply, it is depend on the situation that I will be offensive or not. For example, I send message to my father, and I know he is working at that time, so if he doesn’t reply, it is ok and I will wait for his reply. But if I text to my friend and if he/she disappear in the middle of the conversation, I may be offensive because in my opinion, if you have to do something in the middle of the conversation, you can just text like “wait”, and I will understand you are busy. If you don’t do that, I will think you are bored at texting with me or don’t respect me.
I think that what has changed is now we are living in this world where out need for instant gratification can be solved. These days anything we want is at our finger tips and is usually only a click away. It can be frustrating for those people who demand instant gratification, to wait on a text or not understand why its taking so long to get a response. They have become so use to having their every need satisfied instantly. I can admit I have been like this before, where I would start to overthink if someone I hasn’t texted me back right away. But the older you get the more you realize that, that kind of stuff is not worth getting stressed out about. And that there is most likely a reason why they can’t respond right away.
Ah technology, how we love and hate you at the same time! The advances in technology over the last 20-30 years has been immense and has definitely made us feel we need to have instant connections. It is hard to explain what has changed exactly. I feel that as a society, we tend to learn some new technology, share our amazement of it very quickly with others, and then take it for granted. This happens in a pretty short amount of time. With so much technological advancements occurring so frequently, we have been repeating this process over and over again. This process is now second nature for most of us.
The willingness to change and adapt to new technology has lead us into the need to have instant connections. I personally don’t get offended if someone doesn’t respond to my text. If they were to do it over and over again, it might turn me off though. I think it is selfish to get offended by someone not instantly replying to a text. We all have lives to live, and sometimes we can’t just reply right away even if we want to. People are starting to take for granted, that we can all check our phones every 2 seconds and reply instantly no matter what real time situation we are in. This is ridiculous.
Over the last decade I would say many things changed, such as ( but not limited to) ; accessibility to the web, technology advancements, and communication preferences ( obviously). First addressing accessibility, it is much easier to access the web now than it has ever been in the past. There are hardly any limitations on the information you can find online now, making it not only convenient but attractive to users. I would say that it has become a reliant source in modern day, which is a major change considering that electronics themselves hardly existed historically. On to technology advancements, the web can be accessed on a variety of platforms these days… you no longer have to find a desktop in a designated space, you can have full access from a mobile device or portable computer, etc. This change has yet again, made people rely on having instantaneous access to each other and the web. Which leads me to my final thought, communication styles. Because of how convenient the use of electronics have become, people have formed addictions ( or bonds if this is touchy) with their device, making them rely on it, not just for the web use, but contact purposes. We no longer have to drive to someone’s house and knock on their door to see if their busy, instead we can just IM or call them for an almost instant response. It has become rather satisfying to not have to wait or put in extra effort to get into contact with someone, as there are so many electronics resources for us to use that will get it done much quicker! Because there’s so much widely spread phone use, everyone is doing it and everyone wants to know what everyone’s doing. Got to keep up with the jones, and doing that via mobile is much quicker than the newsPAPER. Also, I only get offended if they have their read receipts on… because then I know for a fact they saw it. Funny what electronics and instant connections have done to us.
Proofreading is so important! It is often a step I tend to overlook in most casual scenarios. When I have a major academic paper to write, I proofread many times. On the other hand, I tend to not proofread when sending texts with family and friends and also when doing discussion posts like this. There are times when I go through and reread what I wrote in these types of discussion posts and I find errors. Let me clarify that I only reread them sometimes, but every time I do, I find errors. I personally need to make a better habit of proofreading what I write, before sending through dialogue, even for what I deem as casual conversations. In terms of the business environment, it is critical to checking your documents before you send them. I would start with rereading the message and checking for grammatical errors and then I would check for correct formatting, making sure the format fits the situation. One overlooked part of proofreading is checking for the tone and effectiveness of your writing. This was covered in last week’s chapters. Tone and effectiveness has many subcategories than are conveyed by word and phrase choices. Usually, if I find a sentence that doesn’t seem to fit with the rest of my document, I will rewrite just that sentence, or omit it, and reread just that part. This may include reading the sentence just before and after the new one. Then I will carry on editing the rest of the document the same way. After compartmentalizing the editing of different sections line by line, it is important to reread the entire document a couple of times again to ensure continuity throughout.
My biggest bit of advice would probably be simply to get good! If you aren’t good at written communication, especially in a business environment, it is really important that you put in the time and effort to get good at it. Read lots of documents, proofread your own documents over and over, if you see a writing style or document you really like and you have access to the author ask them for advice. The more you do it correctly and the better habits you ingrain the easier and more ritualistic it will become.
I can not stress enough though how important proofreading is, obviously it doesn’t always fix all of the mistakes but taking that extra time to make sure the message you are sending is not only what you want to say but also said without error is so important. In a business environment especially, your credibility can go right out the window from a simple spelling error. Spell check doesn’t catch everything and we can’t become reliant on it to fix all of our mistakes; take the time to read what you wrote and make sure you are not only getting the message across the way you want but also without error as one error can simply throw your whole message out the window.
I think to give advice to someone for producing quality documents in a business environment, we can make an analogy. If someone works in the human resources department at a large company like Nike lets say, maybe their job entails sending emails to people regarding hiring and interviewing, maybe you have to correspond with 100’s of different people sending various types of emails, job offer letters or professional texts. There are probably very precise instructions on how Nike writes its business documents emails and letters. So the importance in that environment as was said in another post is to do create and write a lot of these types of documents and refer to the correct way of doing them as you go along, this will make you proficient over time.
For me, if anything is related to business, I will try me best to do what I am best at. If there is something I am not good at, I will have someone help me to do that. Because I know that every little thing in business is important, you can not do for fun or do as your wish. You have to do everything professionally. Especially in document, there are so many important document you have to write in business, so if you are not good at writing them, you can learn how to write from expert or have expert write it for you. You may have to pay fee if you have expert to do it for you, but it is worth. First, because if you do by yourself, you may mess up your document, and may face with terrible results. Second, you can save time because expert can do it faster than you, and you don’t need to spend anytime on writing that document, so you can use that extra time to invest on the thing you good at.